I set these goal for myself: 1. I went back later that day to grab our cats. I told him I should leave. He wasn’t in it for the sex because trust me, there was none. Or is he worth waiting? More posts from the ExNoContact community, Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. He talks to me when he wants to help barely responds when I reach out… I guess my next step is to block him… Am I going about it wrong or should I tell him I can’t be his friend. I merely said I had my plans in Australia and nothing was going to change for him. A sign your ex is teasing you is if he communicates with you, you respond, and he drops the communication completely all of a sudden. If he wants to talk to you, he knows where to find you and you’ve done your best at trying to communicate clearly. I swear if he said ”cut off your arms”, I would have answered ”which one, sweetheart?”. He called me and texted me every day but the texts he would send me seem to be coming with anger and threats because I wasn’t on board with him on working things out. It’s frustrating and enough to drive you crazy wondering WTF. I feel like the no contact period is absolutely ESSENTIAL in gaining any REAL perspective on WHY your ex broke up your LTR or marriage (in my case-10 years!) If you want him, then allow him to pursue you and really make him work at getting your attention. Hang in there! So Christmas hits. On his birthday, I can’t help but send him a birthday greeting but I wasn’t expecting for his reply though, and yes he did not reply. Thanks for your post it really helped???? Used to talk to a guy a few months ago until he got a gf. I was dating a guy for about three months and then he said he’s not ready for a relationship. I am really confused. Your ex is immature If your ex hasn’t tried to contact you, he or she isn’t self-aware enough to understand his or her emotions. Went nuts. He told me something along the lines of (I only remember bits and pieces so bare with me): “I think it’s best if we cool things down for right now, I have to put all of my attention on my dad and if that means I’ll have to make up for it later, I have to do that, You’re a good woman *me*, that loyalty isn’t lost on me, I refuse to be depressed over this anymore” By ‘this’ he was referring to the fact that he can’t give me attention and he felt guilty or something. I knew it was coming but I was still hurt. THEN ghosts afterward. I didnt know him beyond hi. I was speechless and very pissed off. We are both 61 yo. 11 months after he ghosted me. I lost about 8 Kgs in less than 3 months. As a man I have to let you ladies know “WE KNOW WHAT WE WANT AND WHAT WE DON”T WANT!!!! Four months later…on a Friday…at 5:30pm, he sends a random text asking “Hey, how’s it going?” I waited about an hour before responding with “I’m surprised to hear from you.” Then, NOTHING!! Uhhh what? It's been 8.5 months of NC and he just randomly messaged me out of the blue, asking if I've been "good" (yeah I'm good now besides the last 7 months when I was suffering because of you, asshole), then asked if i had … Past couple of weeks he’s been really distant. I don’t care if my friends or family disagree with his politics. So on and off he breaks up with me to go to parties, his hobby, guys weekends. Was same guy. We never had anything, like we spoke well with each other but nothing more because he had a girlfriend. I told him I’m sorry he’s too afraid or hurt to allow himself to be happy with me because he’s a good person and deserves to be happy. Case study: Ex Girlfriend Comes Back After 6 Months. Well, as a backpacker I had to keep moving and then I left that island where I’d met him. I’m dealing with something similar. He had known of her for a while but never did a anything. What the actual fuck. I thought my life was over and I did toy with the idea of putting an end to it. We go good for a while after that then he has a hobby weekend, I’m not going with had something I had to do at home. He knew I loved him. But deep down I know, he probably don’t even have my number anymore. Mean while he started distancing himself and I somehow found out that his ex was pregnant with his child. I was invited prob 30% of the time the other times he just went with his family. Are a few minutes of your day worth attracting love? Had other people intersecting with us while driving. I’m sticking with the no contact rule whether this man ever comes back or not. Do you think there’s hope for him to come back or did he plainly lose interest? Their own low self esteem makes them suspicious and doubting. At some point he admitted he would even have sex with me if he was in a relationship. We started talking again and and hanging out as friends, it was like we never stopped. As far as your situation goes, I would leave him alone. Then I wrote him an apology about my freak out and he responded that he knew I wasn’t being myself and to “know he doesn’t judge me”..I said thank you and if he ever needed someone to talk to I was here… well, I never hear from him again and I don’t reach out either. Definitely don’t answer calls or texts, Don’t look at his, or his new current lovers (or recently broken up with lovers’) social media. He spoke like there was still a lot of interest there. He told me he did not have to justify his reasons to me and hung up. Sometimes people just can’t handle the stress of everyday life as relationships are a separate, yet large part of our lives. We became business partners and eventually he was fired and a month later I was terminated aswell as the employer we were working for couldn’t pay us. Jennifer, This is honestly crazy to me kinda went through the same thing.. I know I’m probably getting ahead of myself but what do I do? You are not alone and you will be okay. He messages me. No. Obviously I TOTALLY supported him in every way I could, but from what he told me, the main issue is that his father ‘forgets’ jf he has taken his meds that day so he will sometimes take them twice or three times (which..you know…OD). Sometimes people have to realize you’re gone to really understand that they need you in their life. I’ve been getting so depressed and confused as he doesn’t give me a valid reason as to why he’s doing this. Will I hear from him again. I was with this guy for about 6 months He also had the same issue and a lot more with himself. Then randomly, the week of Valentine’s Day he went really distant. Our conversations were kinda boring to me because he always said the same things. Not happy with himself or am i not accepting the obvious that he is just no that into me? As long as you stay strong I firmly believe they will return and the ball will now be in your court. One of the more puzzling behaviors of the hot blooded male is his sudden disappearance (“ghosting” or “pulling a Houdini”) and subsequent lack of future contact. I have no idea. We were compatible in sex and for the first time I felt I could be myself in such intimate situation with a stranger. I have 3 adult children with him and he blames me for not having a relationship with him. Both of them cheated and are still with the guys they cheated on him with years later. My ex emailed me after 6 months no contact but 1 year not together. I was really interested in my professor in university (masters)and we spoke briefly but all within the context of academia and nothing much; when i tried to show a little bit more interested he was not very receptive and the semester ended and we stopped all contact. I can’t…I’m just in total shock that someone could do that to someone who was expecting a call from them. He treated me like trash. It was as if he never existed. He never responded. Afternoon, no call. Once he realizes that “sowing his oats” wasn’t everything it was cracked up to be, he comes crawling back hoping for an ego boost or potential reconciliation. Please, please, PLEASE don’t let anything take away from that. Hi, can I ask how many times you broke up before and how soon he would come back, I have just broke up with my partner of 2 years, he left me because his mum doesn’t accept any girlfriend he has ever had, his so depressed but so scared to upset her! I don’t want to contact and ask him what he is up to coz I don’t want to sound needy and yes, I am a woman with value and so I want him to realize that. Same with calls. I was ghosted four months ago – and unfriended on Facebook – what I consider “Part Two” of ghosting. Telling me he’s sorry, asking about my life, ect. The percentage fluctuated at around 3.3% per month until the “years later” mark. He also had pressures of paying off his parents house and debt as they had retired and then his best mate had convinced him just recently to buy a bar. I check the profile pic and sure as hell its my ex. I contacted him again this past April to let him know that he gave me HPV! You want to get her back, but you’re afraid she’ll lose interest again. I had to explain that I wasn’t rejecting him, I was just showing him that he was all that I was interested in. My ex wrote me a very nastily email and said he never wanted to speak to me as a result of this information. During my time in Thailand, I met this guy and we spent the night together after few conversations. I’m older he younger, he just broke it off. Everything was perfect, he never felt distant or awkward nothing. He stayed in bed for about an hour, got out, sat on the sofa and then said that he needs to ask me something. I met this guy I was set up with. Does this annoy you as much as it does me? So I put my big girl pants on. I ended up selling & moving out of country. The minute I saw him, I knew he was the one. ex GF contacted me after 6 months... why would she do this twice? I don’t know what this means, what made him finally contact me or how should I react because I’m still in love with him and always dreamed if having him back? Please update us on what you decide to do! He would get upset when I would tell him that I didn’t want him buying me things all of the times he offered (I was not in it for the materials, I had really started to like him for who he was). I am a light social drinker. A lot of men and women don’t accept the breakup and consequently they return after a few weeks or months because the single life doesn’t appeal to them. I told him I’m confused and need space to think about us. When he noticed I was about to pull myself away, he panicked and called me to give me more explanations. Mentally this guy is still a child. We went on a few dates. No arguments. 2 years later he resurfaced and started pursuing me and when i asked him why he was so cold early on he said that he was on the brink up of a break up with his girlfriend of a few years and that’s why he wasnt willing to get into something else. Work on you and don’t worry about him because even if he does contact you it might not be for the reason you want. Next, be as polite to him as you can be and don’t do any serious talk about the relationship anymore. He randomly texts you after months (or years) away. Why be selfish and keep hurting me?? If you’re truly done with her, don’t reply. Yes, absolutely it’s normal for an ex boyfriend to return after 2 months– especially at the 8 week mark. So I believed him. He was a really kind and generous person anyway so it was so nice he treated me when he had some more money. They will NOT forget about you. I am so nervous will be leave again. Met this guy in Facebook..after a while of talking and he told he had a gf in Dubai but it wasn’t serious cos she’s a Muslim and he can’t marry a Muslim girl..along the line I got attracted to him..he asked me out and I. There was instant attraction and we were very similar. I just wish that I knew why he’s like this as he doesn’t give me any valid reason and he always comes back to me. We work together, we started dating about 2 weeks before he lost his son in a car accident (2016), 2 weeks before Christmas. Click to Register for Your Free Masterclass: 3 Mistakes Women Make With Men That Cause Them To Pull Away, Dump and Ghost Them, What To Do If You’ve Caught Feelings For Your Best Friend, Feeling Like Crap In Your Relationship? And that person is YOU. ), wondering if he’s forgotten about me already. Dear Carolyn Adapted from a recent online discussion. The attraction was great and the chemistry was there from the first date however he always mentioned he has commitment issues and is not willing for any strings attached especially when we got physical he used to disappear for a few days or even a week after and resurface with the excuse that he doesn”t want to get so involved. This is so informative! When he recently contacted me, owning almost ALL of the breakup which he blamed all on ME at the actual real TIME of breaking up and throwing me out for this girl (6 months prior to the current time he contacted me for the first time)…. I need a little help here. The pandemic is making things tough for everyone but I really did not appreciate being left out high and dry like that. I was even willing to hear his side and forgive, but he never gave me a chance. Called a month later out of the blue to say that I had been on his mind for days and that he wanted to check on me and again about a week ago at 2 AM. Now, let’s talk about this situation. Last year I was travelling around South East Asia for 5 months. I nodded hi. He shared with me that ALL of his past girlfriends never fully appreciated all that he did. The last time we spent time together in all fairness he told me he has been too busy and stress on his work. My ex of 6 years broke up with me 6 months ago. This happens most after a long-term relationship falls apart. I’m respectful of myself and others and I care for others so much. I know he knows I sent him a message but WTF? But filing legally will start to protect you and avoiding getting a divorce will not avoid him leaving you. I mean dang, I was the one held his damn hand through his addiction problem. I feel so confused. How much more pain can you put someone through after you betrayed someone. The “stupid” ex is always reachable – that’s what he thinks. And as this has been going on for 4 months now, will things ever change to how they used to be? He still has some crazy stuff going on but he lost his best friend and got into a crazy accident. I really have strong feelings for him and have for a long time but idk if this was to fill time (which this was his first weekend off in over 2 months and he called me to spend time with) if he’s just seeing if he still has an in, or if he really still wants something and things just got messed up. Wow! Bullshit right? She texted "Hey everything is alright with you during this current pandemic lol. Everyone could feel,see the energy between us. He had this ex though. Out the blue it’s been 1 year and he just texted me happy new year and hope I am well and that he want to catch up! Don’t get me wrong, I felt flattered and all but reading messages from a sexually motivated guy was turning me off. Since he has wanted me for 24 years ya know. I gave him name of a lawyer I knew. His reason was he was not ready for a serious relationship after being newly clean and sober. I shouted at him back and asked him wtf was wrong with him, and he knows he’s treating me like crap randomly but he was like how am I? He came back saying he missed me so much and wished we could be together, but his anxiety of his mum finding out got the better of him and he left again saying “you never know what the future holds” do you think he will come back ? We went to a fancy dinner and went back to his place, we made out but i stopped things before anything wcould happen. He’s probably back because he misses what you and what you shared. 2 weeks of extreme pain went by and I always felt the need for closure but it was always the same “I just need to be single right now”. I wanted a kid and we startes trying in Jan. I know he still drives by my work and probably my house, like he’s checking up on me. He’d always want to see me and call me all the time. We text and talk daily. So he has a hobby that he leaves for the weekend. I just sent him back a ? I’m trying to think positively, but I cry every single night (I’m coming across as the most pathetic woman ever, aren’t I? I managed to calm myself enough to sleep and when morning came, no call. He was extremely apologetic and had no idea he had it, he thanked me for letting him know, that was 9 months ago and absolutely no contact since then. I know you’re not ready to hear this right now but eventually you will look back on this and realize that you are so lucky he did this now rather than 10 years after you had been married to him. I signed up for your news letter just now ???? Last year I went on 1 date with a guy. He even asked me if I would move with him if he had to move for work. Honestly, no one on this thread can tell you what to do. We have been intimate once, and I haven5 heard from him again. It is originally my house. We got along really well initially; spent lots of time together, he was adamant about me meeting his family and vice versa, said “I love you” first, gave me access to his credit cards, even asked me to move-in with him (late January). When he said the boyfriend thing I was like ok thanks for the honesty. One day he was there and the next…like he never existed. i even wrote a lot of fanfictions for fun as well as make a new youtube channel and post comics in the form of videos. It’s been almost two years I have seen him one time a few months ago. He would say that he never had women who cared enough to say no or rejected his gifts. After the initial 6 months, the number of dumpees getting contacted by their exes started descending. We’ve done this before.) I really thought he would text me and realise wtf he had done, but nothing. I m just curious to if he will come back. Well a few days later I find out he’s all of a sudden in such a happy relationship from fb. We went out and that night i slept with him. He said it was a friends party that he went to in New Years and she was a friend. He did this knowing that I’m really really unwell at the moment too. Thank you. He hopes to see me again one day to find that I’ve lived a better life and moved onto better things. We went away and did things, and always laughed and talked a lot..He’s had 2 serious relationships in his life before me, one he got married in, the other he had his 2 sons with. A month goes by and I see a post on his fb pg that says “had such a great time can’t wait for u to come back. Whether you had actual unfinished business or not, often a guy will circle back around to a lukewarm relationship after he gave someone else a try and it didn’t work out. Hello, I just came across your article because I am trying to find some answers to a certain situation I’ve been going through. Thinking of you." I loved him and I still do, more than anything in the world, but he walked out on me when I needed him the most. Help Please. YOU will make your value increase over ANY OTHER parter or potential partner your ex may, or may HAVE HAD In the time you’ve gone completely no contact and served him or her with SHEER RADIO SILENCE. Anyway, he flat out ignored me..like wtf? I am big on faith and my walk with God, so I am a praying woman who just wanted to ask God to keep her man covered while he went through this training. As a man I can tell you that he would not lose interest until after you have had sex. If I was in your shoes I’d be cordial but not very talkative. The special ‘it’ that exists between two people is a rare animal indeed and is perhaps the one universal state we all crave. And I mean, WORK. For closure I assumed he died ( I had no option…I really hated him for that). Be the better person, retain your dignity, and let him/her go peacefully. Thanks for your comment. Good luck with him. But ask yourself…do you want to involve yourself with a man who is uncertain that he wants to begin a relationship with you? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I know he knows I just wanted to know what happened, so I have no idea what would make him do that. Keep in mind that I was his first serious girlfriend at 22 years old. I was constantly asking if there was someone else or if he still loved me and he said that he barely had time for me, much less anyone else, and yes he still loves me. He then told me I have a plan to get married and he’s never getting married so I should go find someone that will give me what I want and its over between us. Skip forward 6 months. It took me around 6-7 months of NC to reach that point of indifference. I do realize that one day all this is going to look very silly and funny to him and I, as of right now it’s pretty serious and things need to be handled maturely with some space, I respect that, not sure how I will react when he does unblock me or message me which I know he will. Maybe I’m being paranoid, I don’t know. And there is ZERO attractive about ANY of those things. I think begging for someone to talk to you is a normal response when they have just dropped off the face of the earth. Men will also use this an excuse to talk to you after a breakup when they ACTUALLY miss you and want another chance at the relationship. The next day he sent me som messages about casual everyday things – like when we used to text – but I didn’t really reply because it hurt me so much and because I love him. He seemed so perfect for me and now that it’s been one year I still couldn’t stop thinking about how in love he made me feel and I haven’t met someone of his caliber since. But I’m sitting here like now what? Met a guy online who in the 3rd date told me he didn’t want a relationship preferred to stay single. I went for vacation to another country and his child was born and next thing i know I am unfriended on Facebook, blocked actually, and our communication has been shifted on emails, which really frustrated me because I felt like I am losing all sorts of connection with him because of his ex. I never judged him because he can do whatever he wants with his life as I’m doing the same with mine. We texted two days ago, but his texts are cold. He didn’t even care to talk to me even though we wrote each other letters, and a week before we were making plans to,see each other. He told me they had never met anyone he dated before. Hopefully things will work out in the end despite everything that’s gone on! At that point I was confused and just asked him what are we doing and what does he want. Found out he wanted some a** he fell asleep cuddling me I went home after a while next day I told him I can’t just be a stress reliever or chalk it up as a good time. Tirelessly focused on helping people improve their love lives, her work has gone viral on Your Tango and Thought Catalog as well as been featured on EHarmony, Zoosk, Popsugar, The Good Men Project, Tiny Buddha, Bustle, Fox News Magazine, Ravishly, She Knows, Mind’s Journal, Read Unwritten, Madame Noire, Digital Romance Inc. and many more. I miss him and I love him and he does as well but if anyone reads this, if there’s one thing I know it’s that if you love someone who broke your heart and you want to give it a go again it takes time to rebuild that trust and love again.. you have to make sure your content with yourself and make sure they are as well too if they aren’t doing well emotionally or whatever it might be, you shouldn’t run back in their life you will only risk getting hurt again, They have to do that on there own. You may be asking: “Why did my ex girlfriend text me after 6 months?” When a woman contacts you a long time after the break up, you are excited. He said he liked me and was in lust with me, everything time he talked to me, his body was reacting…one day he said “I have to stop thinking about you every 5 minutes because I get horny” I guess there’s nothing I can do about his lust but it surprised me how hard it was for him to let me go. I’m sitting here obsessing. Move on and remember you are worth a lot more than a kid who wants two lollipops. However, it is been awhile since your ex girlfriend contacted you and even a month already passed. We met up again. After you think through how your ex's text makes you feel, maybe you'll realize that it's nothing more than a little annoyance to help you recognize how over him you actually are. If you want him back too… reuniting with him can be in your future. It was hard to understand because his English is not the best (he’s French) . Everything was really intense and mindblowing. I didn’t open the link immediately but when I opened it after a day I only responded like “Are you one of the good guys?” and he seenzoned me. In the end I decided to take some time out because I need to think and figure things out about other aspects of my life. He just left. I’ve been reading a lot on this type of both gender behavior and realized that it isn’t the gender but the nature of the person. He couldn’t understand and got very upset when I told him he’d be dead to me if he’s got a girlfriend because I’m not interested in getting myself involved in those issues. He talked about a future with me and told me he’s never met a girl like me before that’s so caring, nice and amazing. He also deleted his email and de-activated his phone number. Our chemistry aligned and felt perfect…to me. We are living similar stages in life: leaving home for 2 years, move to another country and learn new things, being a bit emotionally unavailable and kept going in casual encounters (more in his case)and the connection/chemistry/magic we felt that night. I’d let him just initiate things like you have been and see if he eventually wants to go out or meet up or take you on a date. NO CONTACT ALWAYS WINS for both of you in the END. I’m trying to move on with my life but everywhere I turn he’s there. Only 13 years younger than him. He never contacted me and I never contacted him. I knew he was a womanizer so he could find more girls in no time and forget about me. I asked what kind of games was he playing and he responded that he wanted to be done. THAT guy (you know, the one who rocks you world and you miss like crazy) only reaches out to you once a month. One day I told him about this but he just replied “omg” Honestly I thought the conversation was over so I kept going with my life in Australia. Then I would hear stories and just down right rude things that I would se on fb. Because there is something about him I can’t ever completely forget. He put me above all else and treated me like I was the sun and his whole world revolves around me, and I treated him like a king. I responded and said something like, hope you're doing well, that implied I didn't want to talk. Check my messages and there’s this unsaved number. What is going on? Since last year I noticed he started taking interest in me and I did in him as well but of course since he had a girlfriend none of us did anything. I just said thank you. I am upset of what he is doing/treating me but still I am giving him the benefit of the doubt plus I am moving on and just see if he still reaches out to me. Men don’t break up for the same reasons women do. Our parents had just met and loved one another and he told me the night they met he wanted to marry me and couldn’t imagine ever being with anyone else. I went silent since our last contact which was a week ago and not planning to initiate contact again. Then one day out of nowhere I got a message from he. nobody is kid here . He posted something on social media today that was kind of an inside joke. Then on Valentine’s Day he got me another designer gift, and a card that said he loves me so much and loves spoiling me, here’s to many more Valentine’s together. Then one day he started getting distant and not being very responsive I didnt hear I pulled back contact and didnt hear anything for 2 weeks. It’s been about 9 months of zero contact and I’m starting to think that I ruined my chances of hearing from him again by begging…. I did politely call him out on his year long vanishing act, I know now standard drivel..”I had a lot going on, my DUI, my ex took me to court” then oh “we were meant to be” right!!! I then start fishing for a real commitment. He’s a country boy..Idk why I thought that was important for me to mention but oh well lol. It came OUT OF NOWHERE! Why would anyone in their right mind say that and then the following day break up? Question: After 4 months of no contact, my ex-girlfriend texted me to see how I am doing. Says he’s hurt and he needs a friend. So my ex boyfriend left me 6 months ago for another girl and suddenly today he facebooks me and asks how im doing and what im doing at university etc? It was nothing more than a teaser text. The truth is that I love him, more than I have ever loved. Because not only do you focus on yourself– something chances are, you were NOT doing during the later months or years of the relationship with them… Which in turn, decreased your attractiveness and turned him toward another or outward toward attempting to attract someone else. I make sure to only mention project details in my emails or when we see each other. If you’re interested in speaking again then I’d say reply. We were incredibly tight and loving for the first 4 months then my life ends when he has to leave for a very strict very looong out of state rehab. This reason why men come back after months and years away truly sucks, but it’s actually pretty common. Best friend ’ s sorry, asking about my life date you, then him. To support him morally and financially and I questioned my judgment since our last meeting we had no option…I hated. 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