Or if he’s already taking action to move on or maybe isn’t quite sure what to do. Hi Candice, so your ex sounds as if he knew you wanted to get back with him, this time around when you complete your NC you need to be sure that you are also on dating apps and appearing to be moving on while also following the texting phase. I went no contact after he moved out for over 30 days. You ask yourself if he’d come back. If you’re wondering, “Will he come back?” after a guy’s broken up with, yes, men always come back, and here are five reasons to consider before making a decision about getting back with an ex: 1. What he’s probably doing is trying to feel connected to you and fishing for any little tidbit of information he can get on you. When he rejected my call I told him not to expect anything from me anymore and that I was changing my number and he said that’s fine. Although he knows that I am not going well and I know he wants to enjoy his youth I understand that. He said he will still be there and help with the kids but I was too angry to accept that I needed to clear my head and now I see I was so wrong. I would suggest that you do not reach out to him at all for 45 days and ignore him when he reaches out to you considering he is making threats in regards to harassment and getting the authorities involved! When you understand why guys pull away in a relationship, you’ll understand what I mean. Finally, things got too tense between each other and ended up breaking up. He still refers to us as “we”, talks to me about work etc, and we’re still in group contact with his family, although I’ve stopped replying. I also would not put pressure on getting engaged when the relationship is not solid at this time, he needs to accept that people have pasts, just as I am sure he does, We had been dating for a while things were great but I noticed he got comfortable and starting texting less throughout the day I would mention to him and he would get very irritated. Help. In the meantime, here is a video that covers the things you should DEFINITELY avoid going forward. If he freaks at the loss of you and chases you then you know he is interested. Day Two: You decide to reach out to him. He might still be upset. Hi, We’d have a procreation issue if they didn’t. Idk to what to even think, difficult for me to push him away bc I’ve known him for years & he was my first. Maybe he believed you’d both changed enough for it to work or just needed you in his life. However, this is NOT usually the case so you should never assume it is. We agreed to parting and then a month later he was asking to meet up. Am still at his place right now I feel I can’t leave him. I am very confused. I’m deeply hurt, but I appreciate your article and honesty. We had a fight, I was drunk and I told him how I felt, became violent, hurt him and embarrassed him in front of his friends by telling him that some popular guy in our school raped me. One or two of these types of messages is not enough. We do damage, leave … and then we reappear. He came crawling back six months later, but I didn’t want him anymore. He told me that a friend was telling him that if were unhappy he should leave me to find true love if he truly wants me to be happy. Its this sense of curiosity alone that, if you decide to reach back out later on down the road, will make him receptive to your outreach and give you the chance to re-attract him or kiss him. That’s a recipe for disaster. Hi Suz, it sounds as if this guy is thinking about his choices – meaning that you need to go into a No Contact for 30 days (45 if he gets into a relationship) and show him that you are not willing to stand around and wait to be chosen by him. Maybe he wants them to relay the message just to get an idea of what your thoughts are. My boyfriend and I have had an on and off relationship for two years but the issues for breaking up never was because there weren’t feelings there or love, always situational (hard home situation, people getting in the way, etc). Confusion on his part? It’s probably a bit late for this but my boyfriend sent me a text saying that he thinks it’s best if he continues on this path by himself. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. 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